I read in one of Pema Chodron’s books recently that sometimes you have to create boundaries so that you don’t have barriers. I have been thinking about this for several days and it has occurred to me that this concept is relevant to many different situations.
Of course, if we think about boundaries we commonly bring to mind the subject of relationships, but they are important in other areas of our lives. Today I had an appointment and a meditation class planned and I didn’t want to miss either of them, so I ensured that the organisation I work for knew I wouldn’t be available. Ok, so I might have missed out on some much needed work, but these commitments were important for my well-being, and I can only do a good job if I am healthy in mind and body. I set a boundary by booking myself as unavailable, to avoid possible barriers that might occur if I encountered the dilemma of whether to turn down work if it was offered.
The other boundary I set today was geographical. In between the appointment and the class I had a few hours which I wanted to use to write. I knew that home was busy and that if I went back there I might become distracted. So I found a quiet spot where I could drink coffee, read and write and as a result I achieved a lot, including over 1500 words written. I put up a boundary, keeping myself out of the house, avoiding the barrier of resistance or resentment that I might encounter if I tried – and perhaps failed – to work at home.
Small details, perhaps, but important shifts for me, helping me to keep a balance and to prioritise my values. I have a busy working weekend ahead so it is vital that the latter half of this week is calm and reasonably ordered.
What do you think? Do you choose boundaries to avoid barriers? Which areas of your life could this be relevant to? Do share in the comments,, and don’t forget to sign up for Tranquil News if you’d like to keep in touch.
